THE SCOUTS...AKA THE MENTAL WARRIORS

 

DIAGNOSIS
Racism-denying statements really bug these folks. They really don’t understand or empathize with this thinking. Even though they may seethe or get very sad internally when such statements are made, these folks
tend toward caution with engaging skeptics. They don’t have a clear plan about what will be effective, and they don’t want their reaction to hurt
the moment or the relationship. As a result, they don’t usually choose to engage the skeptic. When racism or racism-skeptical thinking emerges, the Scouts/Mental Warriors often just inwardly shake their heads, sigh, and talk about it later after reporting the difficult moment to people they trust.

The mistake Scouts/Mental Warriors most fear making is engaging poorly and thus reducing the chance that they or anyone else will ever move the needle with this person. The Mental Warriors have a strong sense that engaging poorly will undermine any chance of the skeptic changing their minds at any time.

PRESCRIPTION
The growth edge for Scouts/Mental Warriors is to figure out a way to engage more frequently and do so in a way that does not confirm their fears of backlash.

GROWTH EDGE QUESTIONS FOR MENTAL WARRIORS

  1. Can you recall a time when someone you loved (including yourself) thought like a racism skeptic?

  2. What happens to your compassion for skeptics when you recall that American society is designed to keep racism hidden from white people?

  3. Can you imagine now and then using the appearance of skepticism about racism as a learning opportunity about not only what the skeptics think, but about your own ability to ask a non-judgmental question?

  4. In other areas of life outside of race, what strategies have you found successful for engaging points of view that you find unattractive?

  5. Think back to a time when a skeptic did/said something problematic and you did not engage. Imagine what might have happened if you engaged the skeptic with a non-judgmental question about what experiences made them feel like that.